On Death Blog 28March2015


We have been mourning the loss of a dear friend of ours, more like a brother. It was very sudden, a vehicle accident, and his wife just recently came home from the hospital, still needing care. This man’s life touched so many all around the world. He will truly be missed by thousands. I am sure a year from now, there will be those who will hear of his passing for the first time and their shock and sorrow will be as deep as those of ours who received the news within the first day. I am thankful for a recitation I heard a few years back, by Charlie Daniels, Long Leaf Pines album – no singing, just two friends talking – Psalms 23, you can hear it on you tube: (open in ‘new tab’ or ‘window’  so you can keep reading this) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSIuvM6YTww

glenjoy GlenJoy

Sometimes researching can be very revealing and very emotional. As we are researching our ancestors, mourning over those who passed the month or year before we found them, even over those who passed on many years ago that we are just finding out about, let us not forget those that are living still.

We all have a beginning and an ending. We will all meet our maker in the end.

Whether we are first time genealogists, or long time genealogists, or professional genealogists, we are all searching for where we came from and where we are going, how we got to where we are and where do we go from here, and where will our descendants go from here.

May we pause for just a moment and thing about what death was for our ancestors? What did it mean to them? Did they celebrate it?, did they ignore it?, did they try to avoid it? Perhaps there is nothing revealing to us today about how our great, great, great, great, great grandparents or aunts and uncles did or did not confront the dead and death while they were living.

What about you? Are you singing the song., “This world is not my home, I’m just a passing through”?
I was surprised to find that just on YouTube, of about 24,900,000 results, even in Navajo, surprising, right?

but I found this one on Vimeo, it comes straight from her heart  https://vimeo.com/5739427 (you can right click and click on new tab or new window to continue reading this while listening)


Talk about dancing and singing!, I had never even heard of this next song, but it celebrated our friends life, one other family member put this up:  (This should put a smile on your face)  (you can right click and click on new tab or new window to continue reading this while listening)     Your first day in heaven https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UciPFZHkJHo

What do you believe about eternity, or do you? Are you rejoicing while you are living that one day you will be in heaven, without a shadow of a doubt? Are you afraid that there is no after life?, afraid to die?

Only a quarter of my ancestors were Quakers, only part of them mentioned affiliation to church or religion.

I don’t know about the dead, it is not my place to judge the dead or the living, nor would I ever want that responsibility and I am so very grateful that I don’t have to know a person’s heart.

I do have to be accountable for my own heart though, my own soul. One day death will come, and I will have to be accountable for my life. As each one of us will have to be.

GlenRiddle   If you would like to help out my friends family – Thank You and you can help out here:


Brick Walls, Dead Ends and Getting Stuck in the Mud


You are on a roll and finding all kinds of information and then all of a sudden, Nothing. You can’t find anything anywhere. You have written to everyone that you can think of, you have called every place and everyone you can, and you have emailed and searched on-line all resources possible and still nothing. What to do now, you know your ancestor didn’t just appear out of thin air. There are clues to where you can search, but not one thing is turning up.

Sometimes you just have to be patient and wait. Sometimes you have to accept that there is nothing there to find, at least right now. You may have to wait for a couple of years before anything shows up, or even longer. Perhaps this is one mystery that won’t be solved.

Leave it alone and go to another relative. It is okay if you don’t find anything. Over the course of time documents and books and records get destroyed by insects, fire, floods, mice, thrown away or even put in a ‘safe’ place that doesn’t make any sense at all that it is there.

More and more records and documents are being digitized and perhaps something that has been on a dusty shelf in a basement somewhere will soon be digitized. We have a relative that has several books and documents that prove he came from Scotland, but finding anything about that relative on a ship manifest to America just isn’t there. Many ship manifests were sunken with the ship, or other fires and floods destroyed them.

Make sure you document what you know about you and your parents and grandparents and aunts and uncles, even your own siblings. The more that you document, the more your descendants won’t be hitting the brick walls, dead ends and getting stuck in the mud.

Next week I will try to give a good account of 3rd generations, what we know today is usually lost by the 4th generation. One example of this was my cousins grandchildren didn’t know who our grandparents were. I was shocked, because I always had photos of them and told my children about them. But here were some great grandchildren that didn’t know the stories and their lives. I guess I had better get busy and write down more stories about grandma gripping the seat of the car her son was driving at 35mph because it was too fast for her! or her kicking the rocks out of the road while she was a passenger, or pushing on the brakes – My uncle used to tell her, “Mom, you’re going to wear a hole in the floorboard if you don’t quit trying to step on the brakes”. Laughing as he spoke, All in fun.

I Was Here


Daily Prompt: I Was Here – by Krista on December 26, 2013 –You are the first astronaut to arrive on a new, uncharted planet. Write the note that you leave to those who come after you. http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2013/12/26/prompt-here/

What a great tie-in to genealogy! Isn’t this what we are doing right now?

Leaving notes for those that are our descendents.

What do you want them to know about you, about your ancestors, or about themselves as they read it? Are you writing to your great great grandchild that is not even a twinkle in their fathers eye yet? But you want them to know something about their ancestors, perhaps it is something that you would have liked to known yourself.

I often wonder with all the changes in technology, if I leave a video will they be able to view it? If I leave a DVD will they know what it is and will there be any equipment or knowledge on how to use-will they be able to view it? Should that stop us from making a video, a DVD or even a film recording of what we want to show them or tell them?, Of course not!  Do it, and do it now. If you don’t have access to those or don’t know how to work them yourself, get a neighbor or friend to help you with it. Check out the local library for someone who could help you. Or write it down in your own handwriting so they have something that you held in your hands and they have your handwriting to see. The same emotions would be had with a video or DVD or film too.

It is that connection we are leaving behind for those who come after us. It is that connection we have made with our ancestors and that we are making with those who are our descendents. Connections that bring us together, that let us close a chapter in our lives, that give us the opportunity to open or close doors that have been left swinging on their hinges.

Who do you want to connect with by leaving a note about uncharted territory you have had to encounter?