Love letter from another Mother, for Father’s Day

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I have my own opinion about draft dodgers, but I didn’t have to walk in their shoes, so it’s not my place to say one way or another. The fact is, we are all human beings and all in need of the same courtesies,  unconditional love that we want for ourselves.

But, this story is not about that, it is about life itself:

DNA test produces surprise and new family ties.

                I was reading the paper this morning, [what else to do on an early morning at a hotel], and as I thumbed through the sports page, here was the “>continued from 1c” part to the title above. I went back to the page, 1c, and began to read why there would be a DNA test results in the sports section. I was surprised to read the unfolding story that began in 1947. Earlier really, as far as life stories go. If a certain young man had not chosen a career in baseball, none of this story would even exist.

                I don’t want to give away the story with it’s twists and turns, and surprises of its own, please read it for yourself. It’s about adoption and not having the desire to find birth parents, because the adoptive parents were exactly that, parents. It’s about a doctor stating, You need to find out your family medical history. It’s about a life that began, but ended before it could be born. It’s about lives connecting that didn’t even know each other existed. It’s about …an epic love letter. It’s about more than all of this.

“God knows it hurts to let go, though,” the letter ends. “My thoughts and love will be with you three forever. Take care.”

And, it’s not the three you might assume.

This is one read you need to read it for yourself, here:

USA TODAY, Thursday, June 15, 2017

pages 1c and 4c

Titled – Major league revelation

[you will have to click to go to the right page and then grab the article and scroll up to read it]

http://ee.usatoday.com/Olive/ODN/USATSample/default.aspx

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On Death Blog 28March2015

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We have been mourning the loss of a dear friend of ours, more like a brother. It was very sudden, a vehicle accident, and his wife just recently came home from the hospital, still needing care. This man’s life touched so many all around the world. He will truly be missed by thousands. I am sure a year from now, there will be those who will hear of his passing for the first time and their shock and sorrow will be as deep as those of ours who received the news within the first day. I am thankful for a recitation I heard a few years back, by Charlie Daniels, Long Leaf Pines album – no singing, just two friends talking – Psalms 23, you can hear it on you tube: (open in ‘new tab’ or ‘window’  so you can keep reading this) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSIuvM6YTww

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Sometimes researching can be very revealing and very emotional. As we are researching our ancestors, mourning over those who passed the month or year before we found them, even over those who passed on many years ago that we are just finding out about, let us not forget those that are living still.

We all have a beginning and an ending. We will all meet our maker in the end.

Whether we are first time genealogists, or long time genealogists, or professional genealogists, we are all searching for where we came from and where we are going, how we got to where we are and where do we go from here, and where will our descendants go from here.

May we pause for just a moment and thing about what death was for our ancestors? What did it mean to them? Did they celebrate it?, did they ignore it?, did they try to avoid it? Perhaps there is nothing revealing to us today about how our great, great, great, great, great grandparents or aunts and uncles did or did not confront the dead and death while they were living.

What about you? Are you singing the song., “This world is not my home, I’m just a passing through”?
I was surprised to find that just on YouTube, of about 24,900,000 results, even in Navajo, surprising, right?

but I found this one on Vimeo, it comes straight from her heart  https://vimeo.com/5739427 (you can right click and click on new tab or new window to continue reading this while listening)

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Talk about dancing and singing!, I had never even heard of this next song, but it celebrated our friends life, one other family member put this up:  (This should put a smile on your face)  (you can right click and click on new tab or new window to continue reading this while listening)     Your first day in heaven https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UciPFZHkJHo

What do you believe about eternity, or do you? Are you rejoicing while you are living that one day you will be in heaven, without a shadow of a doubt? Are you afraid that there is no after life?, afraid to die?

Only a quarter of my ancestors were Quakers, only part of them mentioned affiliation to church or religion.

I don’t know about the dead, it is not my place to judge the dead or the living, nor would I ever want that responsibility and I am so very grateful that I don’t have to know a person’s heart.

I do have to be accountable for my own heart though, my own soul. One day death will come, and I will have to be accountable for my life. As each one of us will have to be.

GlenRiddle   If you would like to help out my friends family – Thank You and you can help out here:
http://www.gracechurchabq.org/the-riddle-family-donation-fund/

dem bones, dem dry bones

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  1. What did your family do to provide for their loved ones? and  how, if at all, does that have anything to do with you and your family today? You might be surprised. Sometimes when we least expect it, we find our own genealogy and history tied to others and tied to our own history.
  2. This is a reminder to keep our mind ready for new finds, especially when we weren’t looking at the time
  3. The end of this blog will take you to the episode to tie in why the Dry Bone Turtle Skeleton was used.

PBS Benjamin Franklin ActorBenjamin Franklin’s Bones, Secrets of the Dead, 33 Craven Street London, PBS.org

Among other tributes, this is also a tribute to family genealogy/history and how it impacts each generation. Here are only a very few excerpts to highlight the genealogy and history between ancestors and descendants – today descendants.

http://www.pbs.org/wnet/secrets/ben-franklins-bones-full-episode/2074/

HewsonDoctor Melissa Hewson, direct descendant of Dr. Hewson:

Melissa Hewson
Medical Historian
William Hewson met a young woman named Polly Stevenson and she was the daughter of Margaret Stevenson. Polly was always described as being an unusually intelligent woman, so Franklin and Polly had a very close relationship, she was a dear friend of his, he considered her somewhat of a second daughter.

William and Polly were married at St Mary Abbot’s Church on July 10th of 1770 and Franklin actually played a very large role in the ceremony. He was given the honour of walking Polly down the aisle and he at the end signed their wedding certificate for their marriage.

COMMENTATOR Franklin and Hewson became friends but also kindred spirits – they were both swept up by the powerful intellectual principles of what was referred to as the Age of Enlightenment.

Melissa Hewson
Medical Historian
I just love this letter because in the first line it talks about “our family here is in great distress” and this just goes to show how close Franklin was with the Hewsons, he had a great deal of respect for Hewson and was deeply affected by his death.

After Polly’s mother passed away in 1783 Benjamin Franklin wrote her a letter and invited her to come to Philadelphia to be his neighbour. In 1786 Polly decided to move her family to Philadelphia and there they remained.

Now since William Hewson there have been 5 more generations of Hewson physicians. I am very proud to say that I am a direct descendant of William and Polly. I am currently in my last year of studying medicine and I am very excited to be continuing this legacy within the Hewson family.

So I have to say that every time the Hewson family comes to see Franklin’s grave, it’s a very special moment for us, our family is just filled with deep emotion of gratitude. We look at Ben Franklin and we see someone who’s responsible for bringing us where we are today and I think that’s just an incredible history.”

drybonesRead more of the transcript here and watch the video:

http://www.pbs.org/wnet/secrets/ben-franklins-bones-full-episode/2074/#
The Green Sea Turtle was an important clue to tie in the bones and Benjamin Franklin and Doctor Hewson

2014

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blog Here is a genealogy photo book we put together and gave to our children

Three Kings day is over, the end of the ‘Holiday Season’. The lights are down, the decorations are put away, the presents and paper and ribbons and cards will be put away by the weeks end. What now?
Don’t put those cards away! My cousin sent me a great idea for those cards, making a book out of them! Then they are all in one place and what in the world does this have to do with genealogy!?!

Think about the cards published 80 years ago, 50 years ago, even 30 years ago. How have they changed? Who sent them to you? What family letters or notes were put inside of them? What photos were sent to you-or-was the card a family photo or their family vacation? The current trend has been to send Year in Review letters.  Letters full of family information. Information that is now history, albeit, recent history, but a year or two or 10 will pass and it will be old history. Maybe you are not too excited about the letters with photos, or photocards right now, but your descendents will be so grateful to you for saving these for them to view. Be sure to put names on the photos if there aren’t any on them!

Let’s look at this Holiday Book as a great way to keep current family history organized and stored and easy to access in the future.

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1) http://www.writeclickscrapbook.com/.a/6a0115703fdafe970b0167605c1ac8970b-450wi

2) http://media-cache-cd0.pinimg.com/236x/99/7c/1c/997c1c5d43edc4b4b76154321042616a.jpg

3) http://img0.etsystatic.com/007/0/5704364/il_340x270.397317368_5no1.jpg

If you get invitations for Weddings, Baby Announcements, Every Day letters, Obituary’s and such, perhaps more could be had. You could use the school type pocket folders if you don’t want to get decorative with your holders.

The thing that happens but no one wants to talk about

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The inevitable, like death and taxes…

What happens when a loved one ‘passes on’? What is it that family and friends want more than money? I was actually surprised that money was way down on the list of what people want.

They want something that brings back instant happy memories of their loved one the moment they look at it. Something they can tell others about, a life story, a life memory, but here is a website that tells it better than me. I am not supporting the selling of anything on this site. I was shown this site and I think it has some great merit in how to prepare for and deal with what will happen in our lifetimes.

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/heirs-want-even-more-money-110006198.html

Your Heirs Want This Even More Than Your Money

It’s never about the money, it’s always about the heirlooms

 

 

My genealogy began with my earliest ancestor, but my own personal journey began…

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It was 1970 and my mother gathered us together to tell us that her mother had passed away. We lived a few hours away, so seeing my grandparents was a big event and only 1 or 2 times a year. We loved being there, everyone did.

At her funeral there were so many people, they filled every available space in the church and about the same number had to stand outside the church. I was so young, just turned 13, but who were all these people at ‘my’ grandmothers funeral. They weren’t relatives, I never saw them before – obviously this was the first funeral I had ever been to.

Later on, my grandfather had all the girls go downstairs and clean out the trunks and items in the basement. The boys went outside and cleaned items out of the big barn. Grandpa did not want to live in this place without the love of his life, he was so heartbroken, I ached inside for him.

Many items, letters, documents and photos were discovered. None of their children (our parents) knew they even existed. One didn’t go snooping through other peoples things.

FIRE!!

Someone started a fire to burn moldy items, but so sadly without asking the other siblings, one sibling, who was known for an overly tidy house, began to throw out those olde things! NO! cried one aunt by marriage and told the others to stop her.

This aunt, had lost her mother recently and they had discovered many unknown treasures as well.

Thankfully, she knew what she saw, and knew the value of those old dusty photos and letters and documents and books. Some could not be saved, but the ones that did are such treasures. The items were divided and my mom volunteered to put all the items and letters and photos in a thin booklet for each of the siblings.

This journey took her some time and because items were scattered to different relatives, some items were never seen again. Not that anyone was hoarding items, but letters and documents read at the dividing were never seen again. One such letter told of a relative that was helping to sew the flag during the American Revolution.

So if my mother was doing all of this, what has that got to do with me? I really wanted to help, but I was the youngest child, one of the youngest of all the grandchildren, and was not allowed to help out, but I did get to hear the stories.

Then one day my mother had a stroke, small ones at first, then after my father passed on, she had 3 major strokes. Since, I had done some family research on my own, I was now the only one interested in and available to take on the family history.

My first task was to put together a family reunion and I asked each family member to bring what they had, if they could, and I would either photograph or scan on a flatbed scanner the items they brought. Then they could take their items home and I gave CD’s of what was shared. Everyone helped me get the pedigree correct and the participation was wonderful!

Later that year I was able to go to another relative’s home and document all that they had and they gave me the items that belonged to my mother. Wow! what a gift that was!

This has been an exciting, disturbing, heartbreaking, heart filling, amazing and tremendously fulfilling journey. It is far from over, the more I discover the more I need to research and discover.

One note to help you all with your journey – Do It Now! write those stories down that you hear relatives share, get the names of those people in the photos and write them on the back of the photos. Too many times I was setting up a time to visit an aunt or uncle, only to get a call they had passed away the week before. Devastating! I waited too long to go visit.
Don’t Wait! Do It Now!

My next Blog I will try to go more in depth in tracing information back to the primary documents. Sometimes it is very easy, sometimes it is not where you would think it would be and sometimes it can take a couple years to find something.

Thank you for letting me take this journey part way with you and Thank you for letting me share my journey with you.

 

The Humble Genealogist a 6 part guide to discovering your Family Tree

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The Humble Genealogist

by Linda Kirkpatrick

You see it on the television, over the radio, on internet ads: Search for your ancestors! Find the land of your people! What is your family story? Perhaps the better question to be asking is “Why would I want to research my family genealogy? and if I do, where would I even begin?”

Have you watched the shows of famous people traveling all over the world to find documents and historical information about their ancestors? The average person cannot afford the time, energy or expenses to travel around the world in one month, at the drop of a hat – or, finding of a fact in this case.

This 6-part article is here to help guide you along your journey of discovery, laying a firm foundation for you and your descendants to carry on the task for many generations ahead.

Part 1- What do I need? Tools of the trade are simple items you probably already have on hand. The ultimate tool would be a notebook or other computer, However, all you really needs is a pencil, quality eraser, pen, spiral notebook and I recommend an accordion type folder to put them all in. Why not a 3 ring binder? Too bulky and no secure storage. Why a pencil and quality eraser? You will be erasing often and most places you will actually go to, do not allow pens in their facility. An audio recorder, digital or the older style tape recorders. This will come in handy, for family gatherings, talking with a specific family member, on a tour that is connected to an ancestor or for you to use to talk out what you need or are reading. If you have access to a computer program to document your family history and pedigree, this will be most helpful, but it is not required.

Some people have wanted to see how far back in time they can go with their ancestors. Some are looking for the family their dad or mother never talk about.  Perhaps it is a family medical issue that might be genetic. Whether it is for finding a member of the American Revolution, a passenger or pilot of the Mayflower, a traveler through Ellis Island, a criminal given a second chance in a new world. or a seeker of fortune, even a migration of people from a country that was in famine and are looking for a place to stay alive. Many of us ask ourselves: Who are you? What is the benefit of researching family? Where would I start? When would I have time? How would I go about it?

Let’s go to Part 2- Who do I start with and How do I start?

Update: Here is a great help video and here is a checklist

video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1oCGZuRTMk

checklist: http://www.123genealogy.com/organizer/tips/check.htm

2nd video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXI8zq-V364