Eat Pie First

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   cake and pastry display

I was thinking about one time when our kids were young, we went on a cross country trip. There was this one particularly long stretch of road on a very sunny day. It was a two lane road and in the distance we could see the freeway and what looked like a little town. As we got closer we saw a gas station and restaurant, pretty big place and most welcoming. We went inside ordered water and pie and then went to the restroom to wash up and refresh after the long drive. piece of chocolate cake with cherry and strawberryWe went back to our seat and ate our pie and then ordered our meal. All the while there was this lady across from us in another booth that kept looking over at us. When the meal was nearly done, one of the kids had to use the restroom again. We headed there and this woman also headed that way. When we washed our hands the woman kept acting like she wanted to say something and finally she did. I thought, oh boy, here it comes, she is going to talk about what misbehaved kids we have and so on, but No. Surprisingly she said, My mother would never give us desert first, but you did and your kids ate it and then they ate all their dinner. I am so impressed and what well behaved kids they are too.

Well, that isn’t what I was expecting at all!

wineglass and napkin in restaurantAnother time when we went to a restaurant on a different family trip, there was hardly anyone in the restaurant, and we asked for a separate table for the kids. The wait staff looked horrified and said we can’t do that, and we said, it is okay they are well behaved and we do it whenever we go out to eat. They said they had to ask the manager and the manager told them that they would do it, but if the kids caused problems or misbehaved, we would have to all sit at one table. hmm, we thought, what kind of kids do they usually get here?.

The kids sat at their own table, next to ours of course, and when it came time to order their food, the waiter kept asking us if it was okay they ordered this item or that item and my husband finally said to let them order what they want, it is okay, they know that if they order it and don’t eat it, they have to pay for it and next time we order for them. He said okay. They got their food, wait staff kept looking around the corners and watching them. We weren’t concerned, we knew our kids and their behavior. When we were all done, a few of the wait staff came over and complimented us on the kids and how surprised they were that the kids did so well at their own table. The next vacation we took and stopped by this same restaurant, we weren’t even questioned when asking for two tables.

vanilla_coffeeBut several times we have been complimented on how well our kids behaved in the restaurants.

My husband and I always try to repay the kindness and compliment parents when their kids have behaved well in restaurants or other such busy public places.

Why am I telling this here, on a genealogy blog? It is important to share stories with your family, even if it is to remind the kids, grandkids, or nieces and nephews about their childhood. Then ask them what they remember about that time. It also gives me a chance to write it down- for them- for later.

(Thank you to J.R.Watkins at https://www.jrwatkins.com/ for the use of the photos)

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Resources, more

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Is your email full of helpful resources? Are you utilizing the plethora of genealogical resources available to the world, to you?

Wow, that would be an accomplishment!

There is too much information that it would overload any one person if they had all of it in your face everyday!

What to do?  I am going to just give you a few insights that I have showing up daily in my email, that I don’t use every day of the year, but they are there to remind me that help is only a click away…so to speak.

Family Tree University – classes to learn more

Family Tree Magazine – suggestions and helps

GenealogyBank.com more info to help out

Fold3.com good history help

TheGenelogist more history

Archives –  lots of informaiotn

Historical Society of …[you can enter your own place here] – this is a specific Historical Society of a place that my ancestors lived. They have lots of information about my family. I support them even though they are clear across the nation, because, they are caretakers of my and others family histories/documents/photos/items and I want to see they stay in business.If not for my family, for others. They are VERY (yes I am shouting how important they are, because they are very important) to anyone that wants to find out about their family. 

A Historical Society has many helpful resources and insight. Use them!

S&N Genealogy Supplies – always helpful

World Vital Records – yes they have them

Ancestry.com – good to keep up with what is happening specific to my family lines and my cousins

and then there are a few that are specific to people who email me at least once a month.

Just a few to help you along, there are many more that may be more specific to your family, some specific to your country of origin, your state, your province, your area, your county, your city or town or village. Search them out to get some ‘reminders’ that are visible to you each week. Even if you don’t actively use them daily, the reminders are there to let you know you are not alone on this journey.

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Historian vs. Genealogist

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This is a short blog this morning.

Why choose one over the other? What does each offer? What is best for the research I am after? Perhaps I should use both, but who can afford that?

Why choose one over the other?
This depends on the next two Questions. What do they offer and what are you looking for?

Historian:
  a student or writer of history;

Genealogist:
:  a person who traces or studies the descent of persons or families

Now a Family Historian could give you the history of your family, the stories and the history behind your family.

A Genealogist could give you the names and dates , the facts and figures and places.

However, they can work together, gathering their research and that brings us to the last question – Perhaps both are the best way to go.

What are you after, who are you searching, why are you searching for that information? These are questions you need to ask and answer before you choose one or the other, or both. Get detailed in your answers.This will help you make the best choice.

Because, the next question you ask, is how much can I afford to spend on either one, or on both. Should you use a Genealogist first to get as much info as you can, then use an historian to get the stories behind that information? This will put your cost out over time. Maybe you need it soon and so you hire both, but give them specific search guidelines.

A Little Gem for you:
Remember to start with what you know. Write it out. Ask yourself questions about the person or event or ??? whatever it is you want researched. See what you can find out yourself about it. Ask yourself questions again to make sure you know what you are after and when you think you have gotten as far as you can get, then find a Family Historian and a Genealogist and give them the info you are seeking for and ask them what they can do for you to help you get your answers.

Hope this helps you out. I know it is some general information, but it should help you to find a path that will help guide you on your journey.Home

Playing with your Grandchildren

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Yesterday I was able to go Geocaching with my grandchildren for the first time. We actually had an enjoyable time together.

What kinds of play time did you spend with your grandparents? or if they were around, great grandparents?

I know we used to play a lot of boards games and outside games. My aunts and uncles played card games with us.

Do you play X-Box games with your grandchildren (or children or nieces and nephews, cousins?)

What a great opportunity to talk a little about the games you played with your relatives – their ancestors!OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA